The 4th of July may be over, but we’ve still got fireworks on the brain–just not the ones that light up the sky.
Everyone who’s been in a long-term relationship knows that, after a while, the butterflies, passion, and intensity you initially experienced can go as fast as they came.
It’s a bummer, but all hope’s not lost.
Try these tips to keep the sparks — or should we say pyrotechnics — alive and kicking.
Plan new activities to do together.
This one isn’t rocket science, but it’s super important. Experiencing new things together helped get your relationship off the ground, so try to replicate the things that initially brought you closer together. Spontaneous overnight trips, checking out new restaurants, and the list goes on.
Turn off the TV.
And laptop. And stop checking your phone every five seconds. Don’t give your tech toys more attention than people, especially the ones you love. Refocusing your attention on your partner is a major step down the path to renewed intimacy.
Take some time apart.
Although it sounds counterintuitive, sometimes spending some time away from each other works wonders. If you and your partner are constantly together, a sense of novelty gets lost. So go ahead and spend a night or two with you friend. Enjoy a healthy dose of longing. When you return, your partner will seem more appealing than ever.
Play dress up.
While we’re not exactly advocating that French maid costume, we’re all for clothes that make you feel great. Got a holey bra? Baggy pajama bottoms? Toss ‘em! And take yourself shopping for some flattering pieces that’ll make you feel like a new person.