This has been a year of humbling defeats in a lot of ways. Doors I thought were wide open to me have closed. I’m sure there are windows opening left and right in response, but when you feel like you’ve taken a fall the thought Continue reading →
10 Ways To Get Out Of A Lame Date: Part 1
Oh mah gaaaaaahhh This dude is the worst. He looks very little like his profile pics, he just revealed that he’s moving to the Bronx in two weeks (I don’t date long distance) and he’s been talking about Israel for forty minutes. (I GET IT, SAM. Continue reading →
Summer Date Duffel! Everything You Need to Date this Summer
I’m a winter person. I like bundling up in a warm sweater and sipping hot cocoa and snuggling and all that good stuff. I can still like summer for what it’s worth, though, mosquitos and all! I’m going on a lot of first dates these Continue reading →
Thanking Gender Fluidity
When I’m not writing for Mesh, I tutor at a university. Most of my clients are fashion students. Hey guess what! Suits for men haven’t changed, like, at all in 100 years. Other than that dude at the far left, any of these guys could show Continue reading →
7 Signs It’s Time For A Date With Your Girls
Oh my God! I’m sick of dating! Nooooo. No that’s not true. I’m sick of dating guys who don’t really excite me beyond some nice arms or kissy lips or something. I did have a really nice date recently! “Sam” and I ate some Greek Continue reading →
No, I Don’t Have Kids. Yes, My Life Has Meaning.
Oh man, that’s a cute kid. Yes, even on the plane, when there is much shrieking and kicking and a great deal of strange smells, it’s a cute kid. I like kids. I’ve been babysitting off and on for almost twenty years, can you believe that? Continue reading →
Options Are Good, Until They’re Not: How to Stay On Top
From food to dating, the big city’s abundance of choice – options, to excess – might sound like a privileged and great thing; that sure implies a lot of freedom. Yet recent research is showing how too much choice has a subtle impact on the mind of a decision-maker Continue reading →
Your Single’s Guide to New Years and Valentine’s Day
Welcome back, lonely hearts. I’ve got some pretty sweet prospects in my inbox. Fluffy_dolphin wants to know when I can meet up and Brooklyn3254EvR wrote me a little poem that started with “whats up” and ended with “I’m new to this online dating thing lol.” Continue reading →
Taking a Break to Grieve
My siblings and I didn’t expect my dad to die the day before Thanksgiving. We expected him to die, of course. We weren’t ignorant of the definition of a terminal disease. He’d die, but at some remote distant day. We’d have lots of warning. He’d Continue reading →
Your Guide to Surviving the Holidays while Single
The Rockefeller Christmas Tree is up. All of those cutesy-bootie display windows are on display. The menorahs are shined and ready. The Kwanzaa deviled egg spices have been purchased. The holidays are here, and you’re alone. Just hear those sleigh bells ring-a-ling. Well, you’re alone, but you’re not alone Continue reading →