This has been a year of humbling defeats in a lot of ways. Doors I thought were wide open to me have closed. I’m sure there are windows opening left and right in response, but when you feel like you’ve taken a fall the thought Continue reading →
10 Ways To Get Out Of A Lame Date: Part 1
Oh mah gaaaaaahhh This dude is the worst. He looks very little like his profile pics, he just revealed that he’s moving to the Bronx in two weeks (I don’t date long distance) and he’s been talking about Israel for forty minutes. (I GET IT, SAM. Continue reading →
White(ish) Lies and Dating: How Honest is Too Honest?
I remember it perfectly, because it’s seared in my brain like a slab of Korean barbecue. BingoBongo*, my casual makeout buddy/boyfriend-in-all-but-name of three months, was telling me that he didn’t want to date me. We were in Apgujeong, a ritzy Seoul neighborhood where I had just Continue reading →
Summer Date Duffel! Everything You Need to Date this Summer
I’m a winter person. I like bundling up in a warm sweater and sipping hot cocoa and snuggling and all that good stuff. I can still like summer for what it’s worth, though, mosquitos and all! I’m going on a lot of first dates these Continue reading →
Thanking Gender Fluidity
When I’m not writing for Mesh, I tutor at a university. Most of my clients are fashion students. Hey guess what! Suits for men haven’t changed, like, at all in 100 years. Other than that dude at the far left, any of these guys could show Continue reading →
7 Signs It’s Time For A Date With Your Girls
Oh my God! I’m sick of dating! Nooooo. No that’s not true. I’m sick of dating guys who don’t really excite me beyond some nice arms or kissy lips or something. I did have a really nice date recently! “Sam” and I ate some Greek Continue reading →
Eye Contact: The Most Flirtatious Form of Body Language
There are few indicators of romantic interest quite as reliable as the eyes. When we’re face to face with someone who sets our pulse racing, there’s no hiding the attraction. From dilated pupils to fluttering eyelashes to raised eyebrows, the signs are visible if you Continue reading →
What Does Your Favorite Color Say About You?
Of all the first date questions, “what’s your favorite color?” probably seems like the most innocuous. It doesn’t have the emotional weight of inquiring after family, and it doesn’t have the potential for disagreement like a political query. It turns out, though that your preferred color Continue reading →
No, I Don’t Have Kids. Yes, My Life Has Meaning.
Oh man, that’s a cute kid. Yes, even on the plane, when there is much shrieking and kicking and a great deal of strange smells, it’s a cute kid. I like kids. I’ve been babysitting off and on for almost twenty years, can you believe that? Continue reading →
Options Are Good, Until They’re Not: How to Stay On Top
From food to dating, the big city’s abundance of choice – options, to excess – might sound like a privileged and great thing; that sure implies a lot of freedom. Yet recent research is showing how too much choice has a subtle impact on the mind of a decision-maker Continue reading →