You know those people who always seems to have horrible living situations? They have endless stories about their bad luck: disrespectful roommates, annoying roommates, judgmental roommates, roommates who leave jello all over the bathtub somehow. These people tell their stories of bad luck, stressing how they wish Continue reading →
I remember it perfectly, because it’s seared in my brain like a slab of Korean barbecue. BingoBongo*, my casual makeout buddy/boyfriend-in-all-but-name of three months, was telling me that he didn’t want to date me. We were in Apgujeong, a ritzy Seoul neighborhood where I had just Continue reading →
I went on a date recently. It’s my first date in an open relationship! This was extremely exciting. I’m still excited about it. Honestly, my first inclination was to have my boyfriend *Jihoon come over and help me pick out an outfit. If I could Continue reading →
Okay first of all, I am using the word “slutty” here in a totally sex-positive way. I mean it in a SlutWalk, I can wear what I want, I can have sex if I want just like a man can kind of way. My boyfriend Continue reading →
Of all the first date questions, “what’s your favorite color?” probably seems like the most innocuous. It doesn’t have the emotional weight of inquiring after family, and it doesn’t have the potential for disagreement like a political query. It turns out, though that your preferred color Continue reading →
There are few indicators of romantic interest quite as reliable as the eyes. When we’re face to face with someone who sets our pulse racing, there’s no hiding the attraction. From dilated pupils to fluttering eyelashes to raised eyebrows, the signs are visible if you Continue reading →
I love my boyfriend. Just so you know, he’s going to read this, so don’t think that I’m going behind his back or anything (hi baby!) Jihoon and I have so much fun together. For our six month anniversary recently, he bought a cork memory board Continue reading →
The gifts are unwrapped. The Hanukkah Bush has been taken down, and the cookies are nearly all eaten. You stare at the wreckage, wondering what it all means. Wonder no more! Let’s delve into how what your special friend spends might portend. Here’s your lucky Continue reading →
It’s not secret that I’m looking for a man who can make me laugh. “Oh, how original!” the masses cry. “Good thing that isn’t the definition for what all of what woman want!” Okay, jerk. I guess I’m looking for a very funny guy, and I’m Continue reading →
Ever been out with someone new and of nowhere it hits you: “Damn,” you think. “Marcus kind of reminds me of a hedgehog.” Or “Isn’t Maria a little bit of a prairie dog?” Before too long, all you see is a small needled creature foraging Continue reading →
What is improv? Wait, Whose Line? That TV show from the 90s? Yes, but the improv you’ll find in big cities is different. It’s called long form, and it’s more akin to jazz than party games. Simply put, small groups make up short plays, typically around Continue reading →
Every big city has hostels, and those hostels are teaming with two things: hot international men and occasional bed bug infestations. I’ll be focusing on the men here. I have traveled all over the world and I find hostels to be like a second home. Continue reading →
When I’m not writing about my many online dates, I work at an adult ESL academy. This means that I spend six hours of my day teaching various Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Turkish, and assorted other nationals how to make vowel sounds and choose between gerunds Continue reading →
Welcome to Part 2 of our candid interviews with current online daters! Last week we asked five daters about their dealbreakers, messaging filters and what they’re looking for from online dating. In this week’s edition, things get a little weird as we check in with our daters about Continue reading →
I’m really screwing up this dating thing. I’m a bisexual man. I like men and women. I like masculinity and femininity. So, I should be lighting the dating world on fire like a queer Caesar striding triumphantly into Rome, right? Instead I’m like a neurotic Continue reading →
If things have been going well for you and your date, an invite to their personal pad is probably the next step. Sure, he may have been totally charming before, and she was nothing but cool and down-to-earth with your friends. But scoring a peek Continue reading →
It’s pisces season, and while I don’t really know what that means, I think it’s got something to do with fresh starts. So here’s a mix that celebrates water, because there’s no better way to start over than by washing off last year’s remains. Continue reading →
Many moons ago I was a writer for a lifestyle and culture website giving out love advice. Women would send me their tear-jerking letters and in the beginning, I would tell them what any sane, cold robotic genius standing safely within her ivory tower would Continue reading →
We’re talking to five online daters to get their views on a very important aspect of online dating: meeting someone (IN PERSON) for the first time. Check out part one of what they had to say about their best first dates, what to wear, and Continue reading →
Remember how googly-eyed your first big crush made you feel? How about when the world felt like it was over because they started dating someone else? Those feelings are a rite of passage for every teenager. Here are some songs that helped vinyl-era teens live Continue reading →
No matter how excellent the match, no matter how close the percentage points, no matter how cute that picture of him with a baby Chow Chow was, sometimes the dates are just going to suck. If I had to make a graph of my online Continue reading →
Turns out, there’s a lot to say about a first date. In part 2 of our First Date Sound Off, our daters delve into what makes a great first date, how to greet your date, and the most dreaded question of all – who should Continue reading →
Sun dresses, sunglasses, sweat, and dates. What do these have in common? Just a little thing I like to call summer -prime dating season. At least it was for me in my more promiscuous days when my online dating account became my little black book. Continue reading →
Picture this: You’ve gotten past the initial messages and found someone you want to actually meet in person – nice work! But this is just the beginning. Plans need to be made, and the location of your first date sets the tone of your meeting. Continue reading →
Oh, hello holidays. Nice to see you again. Its been what — a whole year? You’re looking great. No. Really. You are. If you don’t see your family often, the time from Thanksgiving to New Year’s often serves as a way to show off how Continue reading →
What a week! We opened our pre-beta doors last Monday, welcomed 200 users and received thousands of reservations. After almost a year of working to make online dating better, it’s thrilling to see our dream being realized! And the best part of the job? Seeing your Continue reading →
Several years ago, I went on a date with a girl who jumped in front of a Mack Truck and asked me to save her. I didn’t. About thirty seconds into her suicide attempt, she realized I wasn’t coming to her rescue (I think I Continue reading →
Sexuality and gender aren’t black and white, and the LGBTQ community has made great strides in pushing that point. But some people didn’t get the memo. Despite a growing demand for visibility, mainstream dating sites still don’t include queer and transgender as options. And why Continue reading →
The 4th of July may be over, but we’ve still got fireworks on the brain–just not the ones that light up the sky. Everyone who’s been in a long-term relationship knows that, after a while, the butterflies, passion, and intensity you initially experienced can go as Continue reading →
Dating someone new? Look out for these red flags to save yourself unnecessary heartbreak. We’ve all been there. Looking back, stunned, on a failed relationship… and suddenly the red flags are popping up all over. How did you not see it at the time? You Continue reading →
Some people like to take space between their relationships, but I’ve always preferred to impale myself head-on. After someone’s dumped me, I try to take at least seven days and dedicate myself to such self-improvement exercises as: “cyberstalking,” “maxing out my debit card,” and “going Continue reading →
I thought I’d never get over the world of hurt that followed my first breakup, but I did, with the help of some aides: time, friends, and music. Here are ten songs that bestow the cathartic power of music, and remind you to keep your Continue reading →
Figuring out the best way to communicate with a new love interest is always tricky. There’s a lot of questions you need answered, like will they understand your sarcastic text messages? Are they for or against workday g-chat convos? And what’s their stance on late Continue reading →
So, you’re head over heals with your cutie? Go you! Another dinner date at TGIF’s? Um, not exactly swoon-worthy. Whether you’ve been together for nine months or nine days, switching up your date routine is a must if you want to keep those sparks flying. Continue reading →
When the World Cup arrives to a sports bar near you, it’s easily the best thing to happen to dating since the smart phone. Something about the impassioned cheering and sweaty team pride makes it a magical month indeed — one that just seems to Continue reading →
I hope you all enjoyed our one day of glorious sunshine (I went outside!), because we’re back in the winter doldrums and we all know March is going to come in like a lion and go out like another lion. But never fear! We’ve got Continue reading →
We made it through Valentine’s Day! I spent the holiday eating piles of unhealthy food and drinking with a dear friend in from out of town, so basically it was perfect. We hope yours was full of calories and friendship, as well. We’re onto a Continue reading →
Valentine’s Day is upon is, and it’s all about that self-love, babyee! Well, it is for me anyway (I recently went on a date who didn’t know what Hamilton was and it killed me a little bit) and, I bet for some of you, too. Continue reading →
What a fun week’s we’ve got coming up! From a hilarious and moving one man show featuring hoarders and Chinglish to bootcamp to blue crabs, we’ve got you covered. Fri 2: Asian Gracefully 254 W 29th St, 7:00 PM – 8:00 PM, $10 Check out the Continue reading →
Upbeat, colorful, and fun! That’s the theme for this week, and it carries through with a participatory arts meetup, a party to celebrate Roe V Wade, and a 90’s themed brunch. Let’s just have a good time, eh friends? Fri 26: Art in Ad Places Exhibition Continue reading →
We’re deep into January, with Valentine’s Day on the horizon. Do you have time to find a lover before that day?! Do I?! Do you already have one, and desire nothing more than to shove your happiness in my face?!? No, I joke. What a Continue reading →
Fri 12: NYC Winter Jazz Fest at The Django The Django, 2 Avenue of the Americas, 5:00 PM – 1:00 AM, $50 (reduced weekend price available) Enjoy top-quality jazz performed by the best professionals on earth, right here in NYC. A weekend pass gets you access Continue reading →
Moving! Dancing! Tours! It’s our first full-week of 2018, and we’re bring you all the best that NYC has to offer you. Fri 5: SOCA ‘N’ SWEAT – BROOKLYN DSPAC Studio, 857 Lexington Avenue 2nd Fl, Brooklyn, 7:30 PM – 8:30 PM, $15 Feeling like you Continue reading →
Wahoo, it’s New Year’s Eve! Whether you’re the type to dance the night away, or watch fireworks, or play shuffleboard, we’ve got plenty of events for you, along with the rest of your weekend fun, of course. Fri 29: Brooklyn High Tea The Williamsburg Hotel, 96 Continue reading →
Aaaand we’re in the final stretch of holidays with religious origins! (That is, until Valentine’s Day/Singlehood Punishment Day) Plenty of celebratory activities this week, from last-minute shopping opportunities to ways to either celebrate or totally ignore Christmas! Fri 22: Holiday Market at the Oculus Westfield Continue reading →