Remember the days when making a mix tape for your significant other meant things were getting serious? It was basically a giveaway that you were trying to move past just holding hands and maybe make out to a couple Death Cab For Cutie songs in your room. Now that tapes and CDs aren’t really the ideal ways to listen to music anymore, the idea of making a mix for a girlfriend doesn’t get tossed around too much. But I think it’s high time that the somewhat antiquated symbol of affection was brought back. We’re all a little older than we were during the golden age of mix CD’s, so it’s easier to give songs (both old and new) deeper, more significant meanings than just looking for tracks with “love” in the title. Here’s my ideal collection of songs that cover nearly every aspect of the relationship you share with your girlfriend. Record these to a cassette for the best results, or send this as a Spotify playlist.
1. “Dear Ramona” by Parquet CourtsNo matter how many weeks, months or years you’ve spent with your lady, there’s inevitably going to be aspects of her personality and psyche that you’ll simply never understand. Underneath everything, there’s a certain mystique and enigmatic aura that makes her all the more attractive. “Dear Ramona” by Parquet Courts is a slacker’s monument to those very same idiosyncrasies that inexplicably created your attraction to her in the first place.
2. “Casey” by The Menzingers
So now that you’ve established your initial attraction to the more puzzling aspects of her personality, it’s time to refresh her memory about the big one – when you two first met. “Casey” tells the story of two punks meeting, dating, and truly valuing the time they spent together. And for all intents and purposes, this story happens to parallel you and your girl’s story almost perfectly. One of you would be waiting for the other to get off work so you can get drunk as hell and spend time with each other, since, like the song says, “it was so much easier than dealing with everything.”
3. “If I Could” by Mineral
Aesthetic beauty has been one of the cornerstones for all relationships and sexual attractions throughout history. I mean there are plenty of other characteristics that bring people together, but there is a certain poetic quality in being able to appreciate the sheer beauty of the person you’re dating. That’s what this particular track is all about. Not only is the music itself absolutely ethereal (something Mineral was always good at) but the urgency with which singer and emo heart throb Chris Simpson delivers the vocals is sure to let your girl know how you really feel. So don’t feel bad when you’re at a loss for words trying to write a Shakespearean sonnet for your girlfriend about her unbridled grace, because Simpson couldn’t do it either. Instead he just fervently croons, “I wanted to tell her how beautiful she was, but I just stared.”